The blog may be new, but my experience in phone sex is not. I’ve had a lot of time to cultivate my style, expertise and personality as an Ebony Femdom. I have a note on my second life profile, that reads: “Broke men don’t get women.” I’m an advocate for hypergamy ie: marrying a wealthy man (if you’re interested in getting married that is), and for men taking their role as such. While that might sound shocking, if it’s shocking to you, then you are a product of the societal brainwashing that has been ongoing for decades now. Specifically in relation to black women. So here’s where you get your education, and I get you together, on what I call positive femdom, and how to be an asset to me. That’s right, I’m the Goddess.
Positive Femdom – What Is A Goddess
A goddess is a woman who knows herself and is on the neverending journey of enlightenment. She knows that in order to be the very best woman she can be, she must embrace her feminine energy, and be committed to cultivating that. How that ties into the experience many black women have, is that black women specifically, have been robbed of experiencing their own feminine energy, and we are slowly reclaiming that. What that means is the right to be feminine, emotional, fragile, soft, delicate; all of the things that are synonymous with being feminine. Now I’m not going to break down the multi-faceted here, I am specifically discussing black women and femininity. Anything else, go discuss that on your own time. Black women are expected to be hard, strong, independent, and over time, that grows tiresome. So yes, black women make fantastic dominants, because we have an entirely different upbringing and experience. That does not mean that we are not feminine, or that we don’t need, want, or deserve to be feminine. Me personally, I love getting inside people’s minds, I also like being pampered and treated like a Princess. I am already a Queen.
The Difference Between Being A Queen And Being A Princess
Simply this: Queen is strength, while the Queen is expected to rule with an iron fist, she is less allowed a vulnerable energy. Princess is the embodiment of the feminine. The princess wants to be pampered, provided for, wined, dined, and impressed. Both demand respect. Can a Princess be a Dominatrix? Of course she can. I’m a self proclaimed brat who gets what she wants, and hell no I don’t take anybodies shit. But I love being soft and feminine while digging my heels into your backside. I say, getchu a woman who can do both, be the Queen, and the spoiled Princess. So femdom makes sense to me in that regard. The part of being a femdom that is tiresome, though, is what I am going to outline in the next paragraph.
Freeloaders, Timewasters, And Needy Broke Motherfuckers
I follow a tiktok creator, who, loudly and often, reminds broke men to stay away from her. Does this turn you off? Do you think women owe you something? Do you think black women specifically owe you something and “should” (that is a disgusting word, by the way), give you whatever it is you’re asking for including free time? Cuz bitch I sure the fuck don’t. I ended a 6 month relationship with a man who A. was very feminine and needy. and B. bitched and pissed and moaned about me not paying attention to him. This man did not live with me or pay any of my bills, therefore, I paid him no mind… when I was working. If I have to explain to a civilian why my work is a priority, you have to go. Which is why I encourage men – and especially subs looking for the attention of Dommes – to pick up the goddamn tab, because there are many of us who blog just like I am right now, and offer free bits here and there outside of paid calls and content. Which means you’re getting free blogs, free audios, free mini clips, free social media, free free free. And you mean to tell me you expect more on top of the premium content you’re already getting????
Free Time? Wazzat???
I do not coddle grown ass men and I do not do free chatting with anybody all damn day, not even my own fucking family gets free shit from me outside of what I’m willing and available to give. I’m running a business, as are many other sex workers, regardless of what type of service it is. Do you really think I owe you charity and that it’s okay to throw a tantrum in my inbox because you don’t want to spend coin but want my attention? I’m gonna ask you one more time, does this turn you off? Me discussing the piss poor behavior of men on the internet (and some women too)? Then I can assure you I am not the femdom for you. Because not only am I comfortable reminding you of all the free shit you get, I will rake you across the hot coals if you try me. The only reason men are even getting away with behavior like this, is because no one bothered to check them on it.
Picking Up The Tab What Dat Iz???
Frankly, it means sending a tip, tribute, paying a bill, an amazon gift card or something off our wishlist. I have subs that know how to do this and do it often, and the only subs I will freely chit chat with are those who have earned it by being valued customers. You don’t have to be into findom to send someone a tribute, pay a bill, pay for a content model to get her hair or nails done, pay for the outfit you want her to wear. And as a matter of fact, there is nothing wrong with a man doing this for the woman he’s dating either. You’ve heard the term “you have to pay the cost to be the boss” haven’t you? I do not tiptoe around asking for payment for my time, and I have no problem ignoring people who IM SWers non stop without sending a tip looking to make small talk. You have a question about my services I am more than happy to answer you. You want to tell me how hot and sexy my content is and how much you love being hypnotized, thanks. If you want to chat past your empty compliments, put some money in the tip jar, sweetling. Can you tell I don’t hold my tongue? Yes, that’s all that “black woman attitude” yall claim to either love or abhor. You come into my house or my place of business, you respect me or skedaddle.
Needy Men Who Aren’t Broke… But Are Toxic
Yes, there are feminine toxic men who have money, and are still attached to the umbilical cord, and still expect women to treat them like their mothers treat them, and are emotionally abusive in exchange for throwing some money your way here and there. I saw a post talking about feminine men, but I did not see this mentioned, yet it exists and happens. Buyer beware.
Polyandry Real Talk
Women who have more than one male partner is a thing in other cultures, and in female led relationships. I have no issue with polygamy, if that’s your bag and you fuck with it heavy, do your thing, I’m just telling you it goes both ways. Polyandry is similar to cuckolding relationships, except that the bull usually doesn’t pay or is not required to. There are areas of the world where women have more than one husband and those husbands provide for her. There are areas of the world where men have more than one wife and multiple mistresses, and guess what? He’s wealthy enough to pay for that lifestyle, and his wives and mistresses live happy lives. Look it up and research it.
I Don’t Wanna Pay… But Here’s My Laundry List Of Requirements
Many men have become lazy and pale in comparison to their predecessors. You want a woman to cook, clean, keep house for you, be a sexy attractive vixen, have your kids, and also take care of you all while working a full time job. Wheredeydodatat???? This happens a lot in black communities, and it’s the reason black women are as hardened and masculine as some of them have become. If I’m doing all of the above what makes you think I have time for you or for myself??? Does it makes sense to you cuz bebe it don’t make no damn sense to me. If you want a feminine woman you have to be a provider for such. If you want a femdom Goddess you have to be a financial provider for such. And if you want me to pay attention to you, you have to contribute something to these monthly bills, beloved. Because contrary to popular belief, we’re not just whores, we provide a service that has been in demand and popular for centuries.
My Non Linear Mind
I write about things that I am passionate about, I sometimes jump and go off on tangents. If we’re going to be friends you better be prepared for that, and you better appreciate all this energy. Otherwise someone else will. Dating and sex work do have a lot in common, in the sense that men DO need a feminine touch, and benefit from feminine energy, and there is a way to go about getting it without coming across as an ashy, broke donut hole. Number one: remember what I said above, broke men don’t get women, and yall honestly don’t deserve us. In conclusion, we’re worth every penny men (and women) spend on us.
Is There Anything Wrong With Spending Free Time?
In short, no. If you have the energy to do so, that’s your business. Me? That’s a hard hell no. Especially seeing how much free content floats around social media; how much content these women work so hard for that gets leaked. Again, yall get blogs from some sex workers like myself. Yall get free audios from some sex workers like myself. Yall get free clips with more than enough content to jerk off to. Asking for more shit on top of that is just greedy as fuck and disrespectful as fuck. So I’m gonna say this, if you have a couple of dollars to support sex workers, even just one SWer, then support them as much as you can, because I know yall are jerking off to free and leaked content, and a few bucks every month isn’t going to kill you. Do you have to be rich? Not really, but wouldn’t it be nice if you could do more for yourself and for a woman than just begging in her inbox for free shit? I mean…. do YOU like being broke?????
Team Sugar Mama
I support other sex workers any way I’m able to, because I know what SWers go through and the amount of bullshit we put up with, so if I can support someone I damn sure will. My goal is to ultimately be someone’s sugar mama, and make their day brighter. What I’m not going to do, is support some raggedy ass dusty ass man who is capable of grinding and making paper. I think it’s tacky as hell for any grown man to be laid up under a woman and getting sonned with absolutely nothing to contribute. Your mama changed your diapers, that’s not my job. Yes I will also support SWers who are men, whose content I like, and I will support anyone in the LGBTQ community, SW or non SW.
Thing’s I Don’t Fuck With
Anyone who is racist, internally or otherwise, homophobic or transphobic, or completely disconnected from what happens to black women on a regular; black men on a regular. Learn something and then come talk to me. There’s plenty of teachers, therapists, resources, diversity training, good god the info is out there you have no excuse for being blissfully ignorant. People who can’t read, because if you didn’t read it that means you were too lazy to do your own research. Victims and crybabies who are never to blame if yall don’t get your dusty asses outta my face…. Anyway let’s keep it positive moving forward…
Things I Do Fuck With
People who know how to listen without making everything about themselves and how they feel; people who understand that just because it never happened TO YOU doesn’t mean others have the same experience. People who support sex workers; people who support black sex workers; people who support BLACK WOMEN sex workers. Open minded people. Mature people. Shredded chicken tacos. I love talking with like minded people, and even if you don’t agree with me, as long as you listen as good as you talk, let’s hear it.
Any Questions On Positive Femdom And Being An Asset To Goddess Nicole?
It’s pretty clear to me, my reading comprehension in relation to common fucking sense is spectacular. If you have any problems and want to address anything I mentioned, you can do that for 1.99 per minute, you can use chat on Niteflirt, or a 20.00 tribute on avn stars will get you roughly 10 minutes of my time via the messaging system. We can talk about whatever so long as you’re paying. Not paying? Ain’t got no money? You broke brah? We don’t know her. If you like this blog, or my content, tips and tributes are appreciated, You can call or text me on niteflirt and/or IWantPhone, I would love hearing from you and hearing your feedback. We’re almost halfway through this year, so let’s make the next six months a blessing. Peace.
Goddess Nicole
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